This is a contentious topic and I’m not sure I ought to be adding a voice to the dialogue. But this wee blog of mine is a place where I desire to encourage women to focus their heart and energy to their families. With society the way it is, the call of wives and mother’s to professionalise homelife is more important than ever. Because this is my heart, I would like to share the deep convictions I have and the reasons for it.

If we look at Scripture as a whole – from Genesis to Revelation – and try to see particular verses in their historical context, scriptural context, it would be incredibly difficult to argue that God encourages women to leave their families for outside work. The Bible never condemns it and I do not believe working outside of the home in and of itself is a sin, but, we cannot deny that the overall principle and ideal that God paints in Scripture is that the woman is the heart of the home and is vital for the health and well-being of family life. A husband needs her and requires her support; her children need her nurturing and instruction.

“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”

Proverbs 14:1

“The adulterous woman…[the personification of an unwise person} is unruly and defiant, her feet never stay at home.”

Proverbs 7:11

“She watches over the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.”

Proverbs 31:27

 

“Older women…are to teach what is good, and so train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”

Titus 2:3-5

“So I would have the younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander.”

1 Timothy 5:14

 

But if [any man] does not provide for their own household, he has denied his faith and worse than an unbeliever.”

1 Timothy 5:8

Now, for me, these verses quite clearly show that when a woman is married and has children, her priority is them. The season in life when children are dependent on her {and not the husband because he is working to provide for them} is when her heart and main focus ought to be where her children are, at home.

For the nitty gritty details, like looking into context and original language, there are much better resources than myself! {See this post for my top five favourites.} But for me, even more important than the rational evidence that can be found when studying Scripture plainly with an earnest heart, is found in the verses from Titus.

In Titus 2:3-5 {often seen as the mandate for Christian women}, Paul frames his instructions for older women to teach the younger women with these two reasons:

…it is good teaching {sound doctrine}.
…it honours God and his Word.

To me, above any other argument, this is what sells it to me. It isn’t scientific research, personal experience, or any other ideal that causes me to believe children thrive best when mother’s are home with them – it’s because when we do not have our family as our main focus and priority, it dishonours God. It gives God a bad name among non-believers. That just kick me in the guts.

Paul speaks of this again to Timothy. His instructions for the welfare for widows is that a widow must remarry and raise her family at home so that

…outsiders can’t slander the gospel.
 

Have you ever thought that choosing to work outside the home when one has dependent children isn’t just about having skills, or passions, or abilities to do so? A woman could absolutely have the desire, the drive, the abilities to be the president of a corporation. But the Bible doesn’t mention one’s capabilities or skills as being a reason to do something {or not do something}. But what the Bible does say is this: motherhood, family life and marriage are not about me. Building our homes, managing them, keeping them is not actually about us. It’s all about Jesus.

What God is saying in these verses is that, not only is it best for a woman and her family that she prioritises family life above all else, it is best for non-believers. What do they see when they watch a woman commit her life to her family? Sacrifice. True, Christ-like love. Hard work. Dedication. Selflessness.

They see Christ.

Could there be any better argument for the advocation of a mother staying home with her family than the furtherance of God’s kingdom? Yes, we live in an imperfect world where sometimes God’s ideals just cannot be lived out. I know a single woman, raising three children, who works outside the home. And oh, God glorifies himself so much through her. But it is hard and it, in his perfect world, would not have been his first pick for her.

But just as prioritising our husbands and children above any other pursuit is about Jesus, so Jesus loves and covers and provides ways for those who cannot pursue his best for them. His grace is lavish and rich and abundant, and uses all things in our lives to make us more like him and glorify him through them {Romans 8:28-29}. But if we have a choice, if the way is there for us, it is for our best – it is for Jesus and the non-believer’s best – that we make our home and families our priorities.

This is why I advocate mother’s being at home – there is so much more than myself at stake.

5 Replies to “Why I’m an Advocate for Mother’s Being at Home.”

  1. So well written Sarah. I worked at a daycare and was a nanny and it always broke my heart when the children would cry for their mommies. No one can replace a mother. Your right its a selfless life, a sacrifice, a dying to ourselves but oh the rewards are great and the glory goes to him because we couldn't do it in and of ourselves.

  2. It's been a busy season of motherhood for me, which is why I haven't commented, but I just wanted to thank you for this post. Staying at home is the hardest “job” I've ever had, but it truly has grown me in my faith and as a person.

  3. How true this is, it is about Jesus. I have always believed that kids really do so much better when a family can have the mom stay home. I realize today a lot of mom's go to work because they feel the family needs the income, but I long for the day when the economy can prosper and moms can stay home where many of them long to be. I am an advocate for this as well. I'm visiting from #grace&truth

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