What Happened When We Brought Our Son Home From Preschool.

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Preschool. Our son was at it about nine months. And then we brought him home. What happened?
Let me just summarise it in one word:
Transformed.
That is the most succinct word I can think of to describe what has happened to our little boy since we brought him home from preschool. It’s been two months and they have flown by. Why? Life is just easier with him at home.
Now, I’m not saying my days are breezy. Ha! Two children under three? No day is going to be breezy! I’m teaching, correcting, encouraging, disciplining, playing, chasing, imagining, cleaning, cooking, and living with them both all day, everyday. I don’t get the few hours of space like I did when he went three mornings a week. And I don’t get time alone with Rosalie now, either.
But – and it is such a big but! – we just have a totally different boy in the house. The boy who was always there, underneath, but who got confused and influenced and tired and overstimulated and put in the world before he was ready. Therefore, the boy who was more aggressive, rebellious, hurtful, less kind to his family, bored all the time, unable to play with himself or others has gone.
Instead, we have a boy who is kinder, more loving, more open, willing to be corrected, less rebellious, more imaginative, more able to play by himself, enjoying more self-directed learning. So, like I said, transformed. We have our little boy back.
Do I regret sending him to preschool? Yes and no.
What Happened When We Brought Our Son Home From Preschool

What I’ve Learned

In some ways I regret it because I have changed my stance on early education and a large reason  for this is because because of the negative effect it has had on our son.
But, at the same time, I don’t regret it because I believe God has had His hand on it all. As parents we always make our best decision with the information/situation we have in front of us. We can only step out in faith and readjust our footing as God guides us.
The steps of a man are established by the LORD, when he delights in God’s way.” Psalm 37:23
Some of the ways God has established our steps as parents is by:
  • helping us know our son more {he’s an INTROVERT, people!}
  • helping us know our convictions more.
  • helping us trust God’s guidance more.
  • helping us be more confident as a mother and father.
  • helping me be more confident in my husband’ judgement {why don’t I learn this quicker??}.
  • helping us see that homeschooling is probably going to be the best thing for our family.
God always knows what He’s doing and, when we make mistakes, if we bring them back to Him, He redeems them and glorifies Himself. I love it because mistakes then, are not ever mistakes at all. Just experiences that push us more into God’s will, and nothing can go wrong with Him.

What Young Children Really Need More Than Preschools

Today, as I was contemplating it all and looking at planning some activities at home, I spent some time in my number one favourite book on motherhood: The Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson {affiliate}. Whenever I’m feeling in need of some motherly advice for a mother, I turn to her. These words just lifted me up today:

“Simply throwing children into a cultural tornado and hoping for the best gives them little chance of living up to their potential or coming out unharmed. Someone needs to take responsibility for their nurture, protection, nourishment, intellectual development, manners, recreation, personal needs, and spiritual development. Someone needs to commit time and energy into staying close to them as they grow, encouragung and correcting and teaching…

Best of all, when a mother chooses to stay home, she has the time and opportunity to craft the kind of relationship with her young children that only extended time together can foster. And from such a relationship she has a much better chance of building a strong moral and spiritual foundation in the heart of her young children, teaching a system of truth and values without the constant challenge of authorities and peers whose lives are totally different.” p.43,48

Over the last year or two God has just been placing these thoughts so heavily on my heart. I’m at a place where the idea of leaving either my children at a centre regularly on their own just doesn’t sit well with my conscious. For other people, there will be no issue with this. But, for our family, at this season in time, our children belong home with me.

So I would just love to encourage you, dear mother, that if you have a little one in preschool or school, and you just have something in your spirit telling you pulling them out might be a good idea – don’t ignore it. Seek the Lord, talk with your husband, pray and read His Word. There is great wisdom in keeping children home for as long as possible to prepare them to be with the “authorities and peers whose lives are totally different”.

Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. Psalm 13:20  << A confirmation Scripture from the Lord when we were praying about bring our son home >>

Have you experienced something similar with your own children? What do you think about Sally’s words?

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10 Comments

  1. Thank you so much for sharing this! We have had similar issues with our son and reading your experience is very reassuring!! Our circumstances don't allow for us to homeschool him at the moment but, just as you pointed out, I'm putting it in God's hands and trusting in Him!

  2. Yes! Trust Him. Even if homeschooling isn't an option, He will have a way for you to care and protect your children. When I was in intermediate {middle school} I was badly bullied and so for my first year of high school, my parents got me into a Christian school. It was the best thing for me at the time. I didn't finish my high school years there, but for three years God gave me a good group of friends that did a lot of healing and influence in my life.

  3. This is wonderful! I am so happy to hear that your little boy is responding so well to being at home and that you have more peace about the decision. What a wonderful shepherd our heavenly Father is! Blessings to you on this new adventure of homeschooling. 🙂

  4. We wholeheartedly believe in my being home with them, especially when they're little. I often don't believe I know even a little bit of what I'm doing, yet somehow we're all growing and learning together and overall our life is relatively smooth. I also think that listening to your intuition really can lead to wonderful things. I'm glad that doing this has worked for you and your son! 😀

  5. This was beautiful to read! God first instituted the family as the first “school” and I don't think we can go wrong when we go back to these beginning and basic biblical principles (instead of the 3 R's it's the 3 B's –smile–)! Thank you for sharing your wonderful posts with us on the Art of Home-Making Mondays at Strangers & Pilgrims on Earth!

  6. JES, thank YOU for being such a faithful blogger who provides a lovely space of kindred spirits to link up. I love reading your archives and some have really spoken to me recently. Bless you x

  7. I totally get that – the not even knowing what I'm doing but it all works out. When I feel like I'm lacking, or have made a bad choice, I'm so thankful He covers the gaps!

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