I love homemaking.
It is a beautiful and wonderful thing to do with my days. I love creating a home that reflects our family, our values, our passions, our hearts. I love making a home for people who feel welcome and want to be with us. And I love making a home that encourages an atmosphere of learning and playing for our children.
Me and keeping a house (which is only part of making a house) have had a long and arduous journey. With ups and downs, learning leaps and lazy loops, I’ve slowly been getting there over the almost-ten years of being a wife.
Over the last few years, God has brought me out of a lazy mindset and has helped me see how much He desires His people to work (Psalm 90:17, Proverbs 12:11, 12:24). Working hard, balanced with rest, is part of His will for people. As these truths have taken root in my heart, slowly pushing out sloth, I have improved in my housekeeping skills.
Still, I have a wee way to go. Recently, the kids and I have been having busier weeks. Our 4.5-year-old son needs more outings and relational excursions, so we have been out of the house more often. It isn’t what I would naturally choose for myself, but it is really beneficial for him, and I can see the fruit of that already (more settled behaviour).
This means however, that I have had to become more organised with my time around the home. Instead of pottering like I always have done, I have had to up my homemaking game.
There are two main things I have used to be a better homemaker:
- A Daily Schedule When Tim and I saw that Josiah’s behaviour was declining because of boredom and realised he needed more than what we were offering him at the time, Tim suggested creating a daily schedule that we kept to everyday. This was different to the daily routines we have always done. Now I was scheduling specific times of the day to do particular things, like chore time (which the kids are involved in). I have found this really helpful, not just for myself, but for the children as well.
- A Cleaning Schedule I then found some printables that I knew would work for me and sat down and followed her instructions in how to fill them out. I’m so thankful we have a small house. I’ve realised that taking care of our home will be much easier if I stay on top on the schedule. There is less to clean, things get done more regularly, and – the best part – I feel really good about how I am doing.
So what have been the results?
I’ve realised that this is so true!
I’m Feelin’ Good
Well, for one thing: I feel amazing. That makes me giggle, but it’s true. Who knew that working hard at what you’re called to do makes you feel good? But that is what I am learning is true:
God is always at work. He is always, through His Spirit and Providence, working in the world for our good and His glory. And, being made in His image, I am made to work well, too. So, in doing what I am made to do – working for Him – I am being filled up and renewed.
I’m Ahead of the Chaos
The above quote from Love The Home You Have (which I haven’t read but have collected numerous sayings from it) is so true: Working well, being the master – missus? – of the home means we have time, in the end, for what really matters.
Take today, for example: It’s Friday and I have had nothing to do. Seriously. I have actually genuinely struggled to find things to do. Sure, there are nit-picky things I could search out for (like finding all the interesting treasures under the depths of the dishwasher). But, because I am now on a cleaning schedule, I know that the things that could be done will be done next week or after that.
So today, we went to the library and the beach. And I blogged. Lovely!
I’m Blessing Those I Love
My husband has noticed my efforts and thanked me. Talk about filling my heart with joy (if you remember that I haven’t served him as well as I could have in the past). My children are being taught to help me at times, showing them what it means to work and be part of family life. Our home is tidier, cleaner, more presentable, and ordered. Simply, I’m being a blessing to those I most love.
Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
‘Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.” (Proverbs 31:28-29)
So Let Me Help You
If you need to get your week’s back on track, then download this printable weekly planner for free. I designed this simple planner myself and I want to share it with you. I have been using it for almost a month, and it’s working for me really well. It may not suit you, but that is okay – worth a try, right?
Second, I have created a Pinterest board full of planners and cleaning schedules to help you. The one I have linked to already (from Mother’s Little Helpers) is the one I am using, but there are so many out there.
And, my last piece of advice? In prayer, do it. Do the work. Don’t just sit and organise and think about doing the work (which I have done for so many years). Get up and get moving. Things get done if you do the work!